Ramsey growth in some NIP structures

We investigate bounds in Ramsey's theorem for relations definable in NIP structures. Applying model-theoretic methods to finitary combinatorics, we generalize a theorem of Bukh and Matousek [B. Bukh, J. Matou\v{s}ek. "Erd\H{o}s-Szekeres-type statements: Ramsey function and decidability in dimension $1$", Duke Mathematical Journal 163.12 (2014): 2243-2270] from the semialgebraic case to arbitrary polynomially bounded $o$-minimal expansions of $\mathbb{R}$, and show that it doesn't hold in $\mathbb{R}_{\exp}$. This provides a new combinatorial characterization of polynomial boundedness for $o$-minimal structures. We also prove an analog for relations definable in $P$-minimal structures, in particular for the field of the $p$-adics. Generalizing [D. Conlon, J. Fox, J. Pach, B. Sudakov, A. Suk "Ramsey-type results for semi-algebraic relations", Transactions of the American Mathematical Society 366.9 (2014): 5043-5065], we show that in distal structures the upper bound for $k$-ary definable relations is given by the exponential tower of height $k-1$.